Building Self-Love for You
and Your Horse
A gentle step toward emotional grounding and deeper horse communication.
What Is Self-Love
And Why It Matters
If you don’t love yourself, you’ll always feel as though something is missing.
You may feel empty inside.
You’ll seek love and validation from others — people who may not always be there, or able to give what you need.
But there is one person you can trust to love you fully: you.
Self-love isn’t selfish or arrogant. It’s the foundation of your emotional strength — the quiet inner belief that you are enough, just as you are.
It’s built on self-respect, trust in your own decisions, and an appreciation of your unique way of being in the world.
Loving yourself gives you the confidence to live a happier life.
Dolly had a beard and was often called "he" but she never let it bother her because she always knew who she was, and she knew who was being kind to her and who wasn't.
Why It Matters for Your Horse
When we don’t love ourselves, we second-guess everything.
We doubt our abilities.
We chase perfection, trying to be like others we see as “better” — in the horse world, in life,
and even in how we treat our horses.
Improving ourselves is a good thing — but only when it comes from a place of curiosity, not comparison.
Too often, we judge ourselves against artificial ideals: the polished videos, the forceful trainers, the social media riders who seem to have it all figured out. And in doing so, we begin to ask our horses to fit into someone else’s vision — not ours.
True self-love means finding your truth. It means knowing what feels right for you and your horse — even if it goes against the mainstream. It’s not about thinking you're always right. It’s about being open-minded, willing to learn, but also willing to say, “That doesn’t feel right for us.”
When you trust yourself, your horse feels it.
They sense your calm confidence, your clarity, your grounded presence.
Horses are drawn to that — just as they are to strong, centred members of their own herd.
But if you’re constantly doubting yourself, seeking approval, or needing reassurance, your horse picks up on that too. They may become unsure or anxious, mirroring your inner state.
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Self-love creates the quiet strength your horse can relax into.
It’s not loud or showy.
It’s solid, steady, and real.
And it starts with you.
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A Gentle Reflection
What beliefs about yourself have you been carrying that might not be yours
and how might they be shaping your relationship with your horse?
Take a few quiet minutes to explore this:
“If I truly trusted myself, what would I do differently — for me, and for my horse?"
Let your thoughts flow without judgment.
You may be surprised by what comes up when you allow your inner voice to speak.
It is always a good idea to write these thoughts down and see how things change when you start to follow your heart.​​​​
Sign up for Free Site Membership and Access to your Journal
This free journal will allow you quick access on your phone so that you can make notes while you are still at the stable, and everything is fresh in your mind. Create a folder on your phone for any photos you may want to keep for future reference, and enjoy the journey of a calmer happier time with your horse.
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How My Coaching Can Help
If you struggle with self-criticism, people-pleasing, or feeling “not enough,” you’re not alone.
A lack of self-love often lies quietly beneath our stress, our doubts,
and even how we handle our horses.
Through my empowerment coaching, I gently help you rebuild that inner relationship.
You’ll learn to soften your self-talk, identify your true needs, and reconnect with the quiet knowing that you are enough — just as you are.
As your self-love deepens, your horse will notice too.
Because when you treat yourself with kindness and compassion, you naturally extend the same energy toward them — creating trust, safety, and a deeper bond.
Let’s work together to build that foundation of care — for yourself, and for your horse.
Book a free chat to see how I can help.
Or start gently, with my course Horse Listening for Beginners.
It’s a beautiful first step toward understanding your horse’s needs — and your own —
without pressure or perfection.
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Let’s start where you are — and grow from there.​